bed wetting SUCKS!
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jennickelsI'm so sick of it I want to cry. I have two bed wetters--Brenna and Owen. I went into the girls' room to get their laundry and it's fine. It's a little messy but for once their dirty clothes were in the basket and there were no toys/books scattered all over. It doesn't smell or anything (Brenna's blankets might but I didn't check).
Then I went into Owen's room to see about putting the Halloween decorations back in his windows and I about threw up. The rooms smells so bad you gag just walking by it. I couldn't stand to be in there more than a couple seconds. I opened the window and went to find the replacements to his Glade plug-in. I also had to find the Oust. It doesn't help that there's a soaking wet pull-up laying in the middle of the floor. He wears them every night but they don't help. He wets so much he soaks through them every night and his blankets stink so bad even after washing and repeated rinses in vinegar. I already threw away the blankets he's had since he was a toddler because they were so bad. I got him 2 new ones and those will have to be thrown out soon. He's ruined all the pillows in the house. I threw his away so he took the ones from the sofa and they are now ruined. He has a plastic sheet on his mattress but he's ripped it to shreds and prefers to sleep on the floor so it's soaking into the carpet.
I'm terrified the landlady will show up some day and want to look around the house. She'll kick us out if she ever smells his room. It's that bad. It smells like someone is using it as a toilet. I can't even explain how bad it is. And he's so used to it he doesn't smell it. His clothes smell even after being washed. Even the stuff he doesn't pee in because it sits in the room. Everything in there smells. His mattress will have to be thrown out, his dresser (which has fabric drawers), his stuffed animals. It all stinks so bad.
Jack is supposed to be sharing a room with him but we can't subject him to that so he's still in our room at 15 months. I just don't know what else to do. We can't stop him from drinking. If we tell him no drinks after dinner (which is at 5pm) he just goes into the bathroom and drinks straight from the tap. He doesn't wake up at all at night, even if you try to wake him. He sleeps too soundly for that (which is why he wets). My husband won't make a doctor's appointment for him and suffer from horrible phone phobia. I haven't made a phone call (other than to my husband) in years. Plus I don't know my husband's schedule and he could only have the appointment when my husband is off because he has the car. But my husband won't do it. He says we don't have the money. Our co-pay is $30 but we owe the pediatrician money from Meagan, Nora and Jack this summer. We have like $180 to last us until the 5th.
I'm so sick of worrying about this stuff. Between Jack's eyes (he's still only seen a doctor twice in his entire 15 months of life--at 5 weeks and at 12 months) and Owen's bed wetting... ugh. I'm literally going to cry. It's so humiliating for him and me (although it bothers him a lot less). I hate being in public with him and he SMELLS. Even when he's wearing clothes I just washed and he just took a shower. All of his stuff smells all the time even with vinegar rinses. Not to mention the cost of water to wash his clothes. I have to wash and then do a 2nd (sometimes 3rd) rinse in vinegar for all of his stuff. Our water bill is ridiculous. I think we average $90/month in water/sewer. And the cost of pull-ups. I mean, I have 3 in "diapers" even though I only have 1 toddler. I've been buying diapers/pull-ups for 11 years non-stop now. We should have bought stock in Huggies. I don't even want to imagine the money we've spend on diapers.
Not using pull-ups is NOT an option. I mean, it's bad enough with the pull-ups on. We can't afford to wash their bedding and pajamas every single day. And it makes no difference. They run out all the time so go to bed without them on and they NEVER wake up even when they are soaked from their chest to their knees. And then when they do wake up soaked they just go about their business. They leave their stinking wet clothes on the floor and never say a thing to me. Sometimes they even lie and say they didn't wet the bed, all the time their bedding is soaking wet. And they don't care. They'll just climb right into bed with wet blankets/sheets and go to sleep. Ick.
Meagan stopped wearing diapers/pull-ups just after she turned 3 although she stopped wetting at night before she turned 2. Nora was fully potty trained day and night at 2 1/2. At that time Owen was 7 and Brenna was 6 and still wetting the bed every night. At this rate Jack will be potty trained before they are out of pull-ups.
I never in a million years thought I would still be dealing with this crap. They are 10 and 9 (on the 8th) for crying out loud. Ugh, gotta go. Jack fell down and now he's all mad even though he didn't get hurt. He's so freaking clingy lately. He won't nap and just wants me to hold him all the time. ARGH!
Then I went into Owen's room to see about putting the Halloween decorations back in his windows and I about threw up. The rooms smells so bad you gag just walking by it. I couldn't stand to be in there more than a couple seconds. I opened the window and went to find the replacements to his Glade plug-in. I also had to find the Oust. It doesn't help that there's a soaking wet pull-up laying in the middle of the floor. He wears them every night but they don't help. He wets so much he soaks through them every night and his blankets stink so bad even after washing and repeated rinses in vinegar. I already threw away the blankets he's had since he was a toddler because they were so bad. I got him 2 new ones and those will have to be thrown out soon. He's ruined all the pillows in the house. I threw his away so he took the ones from the sofa and they are now ruined. He has a plastic sheet on his mattress but he's ripped it to shreds and prefers to sleep on the floor so it's soaking into the carpet.
I'm terrified the landlady will show up some day and want to look around the house. She'll kick us out if she ever smells his room. It's that bad. It smells like someone is using it as a toilet. I can't even explain how bad it is. And he's so used to it he doesn't smell it. His clothes smell even after being washed. Even the stuff he doesn't pee in because it sits in the room. Everything in there smells. His mattress will have to be thrown out, his dresser (which has fabric drawers), his stuffed animals. It all stinks so bad.
Jack is supposed to be sharing a room with him but we can't subject him to that so he's still in our room at 15 months. I just don't know what else to do. We can't stop him from drinking. If we tell him no drinks after dinner (which is at 5pm) he just goes into the bathroom and drinks straight from the tap. He doesn't wake up at all at night, even if you try to wake him. He sleeps too soundly for that (which is why he wets). My husband won't make a doctor's appointment for him and suffer from horrible phone phobia. I haven't made a phone call (other than to my husband) in years. Plus I don't know my husband's schedule and he could only have the appointment when my husband is off because he has the car. But my husband won't do it. He says we don't have the money. Our co-pay is $30 but we owe the pediatrician money from Meagan, Nora and Jack this summer. We have like $180 to last us until the 5th.
I'm so sick of worrying about this stuff. Between Jack's eyes (he's still only seen a doctor twice in his entire 15 months of life--at 5 weeks and at 12 months) and Owen's bed wetting... ugh. I'm literally going to cry. It's so humiliating for him and me (although it bothers him a lot less). I hate being in public with him and he SMELLS. Even when he's wearing clothes I just washed and he just took a shower. All of his stuff smells all the time even with vinegar rinses. Not to mention the cost of water to wash his clothes. I have to wash and then do a 2nd (sometimes 3rd) rinse in vinegar for all of his stuff. Our water bill is ridiculous. I think we average $90/month in water/sewer. And the cost of pull-ups. I mean, I have 3 in "diapers" even though I only have 1 toddler. I've been buying diapers/pull-ups for 11 years non-stop now. We should have bought stock in Huggies. I don't even want to imagine the money we've spend on diapers.
Not using pull-ups is NOT an option. I mean, it's bad enough with the pull-ups on. We can't afford to wash their bedding and pajamas every single day. And it makes no difference. They run out all the time so go to bed without them on and they NEVER wake up even when they are soaked from their chest to their knees. And then when they do wake up soaked they just go about their business. They leave their stinking wet clothes on the floor and never say a thing to me. Sometimes they even lie and say they didn't wet the bed, all the time their bedding is soaking wet. And they don't care. They'll just climb right into bed with wet blankets/sheets and go to sleep. Ick.
Meagan stopped wearing diapers/pull-ups just after she turned 3 although she stopped wetting at night before she turned 2. Nora was fully potty trained day and night at 2 1/2. At that time Owen was 7 and Brenna was 6 and still wetting the bed every night. At this rate Jack will be potty trained before they are out of pull-ups.
I never in a million years thought I would still be dealing with this crap. They are 10 and 9 (on the 8th) for crying out loud. Ugh, gotta go. Jack fell down and now he's all mad even though he didn't get hurt. He's so freaking clingy lately. He won't nap and just wants me to hold him all the time. ARGH!
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Date: 26 Oct 2011 08:23 pm (UTC)The only potentially useful thing I can say is about your landlady stopping by. At least where I live, landlords are required to give you 24 hours notice if they need to get into the house or apartment; they can't just show up and demand to be immediately let in. I'm not sure if your state has the same rules, but you could probably find out online? I know 24 hours wouldn't make a huge difference, but having some warning might help a little?
*more hugs*
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Date: 26 Oct 2011 10:44 pm (UTC)I did find a coupon in the mail for carpet cleaners. It was 3 rooms for like $80 or something which could be in our budget if we move things around. We could get the living room, family room and his room done (our room is fine and the girls room is just way too messy/full to have the carpets cleaned--it'd take too long to clear it out right now).
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Date: 27 Oct 2011 01:07 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 26 Oct 2011 10:45 pm (UTC)I know they are too sleepy and won't wake. A cool washcloth on the back of the neck and the removal of blankets will help. An alarm. You might be able to train them to eventually wake up their own. It seems you will be alone in dealing with this but clearly he can't go on this way. Believe me. It is upsetting him even if he covering it up.
My brother wet the bed until he was 15. Doctors did many tests and there were many treatments tried. This was 40 years ago. Eventually when nothing worked it was discovered he had a reaction to red dye which at the time was in a lot of shit like ketchup and even meat. It was removed from his diet and the cure was immediate. Your kids have a medical condition that is now treatable. It isn't something they can control. I really think they should be seen by a specialist.
I used to have phone fear but I actually write down a script of what I need to say before I call. I also write down everything I want to tell my doctor when I take my kids in because my shyness and mommy emotions get in the way sometimes and I used to forget important info. Good luck hon, you can make things better for you and your kids even if you are doing it alone. Moms have to be warriors and I know you are a warrior.
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Date: 26 Oct 2011 11:11 pm (UTC)If Owen's urine smell is more extreme than Brenna's, that might be a symptom of something that can be controlled by medical treatment.
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Date: 27 Oct 2011 03:24 pm (UTC)