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angry at real life
7 Mar 2011 06:03 pmAnd for once it's not my life. I have a friend online who had twins about a month after Jack was born and she was nervous she might need a c-section. I had 4 at that time with another coming up so I gave her some advice and we kind of connected and became friends. She's younger than me (in her early 20s) with a 3yo and now twin 6 1/2 month olds (boy and girl). She's so sweet and funny and caring. I feel so bad for her. Her husband is such an ass. He's one of those moron men that think they deserve more because they "work" and earn money for their jobs.
He told her today that she doesn't do anything around the house. Then he spent all their tax return on things he wanted as "payment for supporting her and the kids all year" (and yes they are all his kids). All she wanted was some new paints and canvas because she hasn't painted since her oldest was born 3 years ago. He refused to let her even get one bit of paint because it was his money. Then he refused to buy formula for the twins saying there wasn't enough money and she should have kept breastfeeding...basically it wasn't his problem. WTF!
For the record she breastfed the one twin for 5 months I think. The other had issues and ended up on bottles and it was just easier to formula feed her. She's so overwhelmed and obviously suffering from PPD so she quit breastfeeding the other one recently to try and save some of her sanity. He told her people that breastfeed are better than people that don't. Who the hell says something like that to their wife?
She lives on the other side of the country from me or I'd let her come crash at my house for a few days to get away from his crap. I will never understand men like that. What a bastard. And I bet his parents taught him to be that way which was reinforced by society (I get crap constantly for being a stay at home mom...somehow women's lib got turned around into women HAVE to work and do everything else to be worthy of anything).
My husband teases me about what I do around the house all day and sometimes he gets snarky and says I spend all his money but I KNOW he doesn't mean it. We've had our issues, about money even, but never once has he seen his paycheck as anything other than OUR money. That was from the day he proposed. We weren't even married and he would cash his check so I could deposit it into my checking account and I would pay both of our bills with that and my check. After I quit my job (a couple months after we got married) he never said anything about having a mountain of debt that he took on from before we were together (thanks to needing dental work with no insurance of any kind...had to max out 4 credit cards to get it done).
Then there are douche bags like her husband who are selfish and act like spoiled brats refusing to buy food for their children because it's their money and they want to get stuff for themselves. What the fuck is wrong with people?
I'm so pissed right now. I wish she lived closer so I could just give her a hug so she knew someone really cared. ARGH! I need some good fic where Jack plays the stand up guy to counteract all this crap.
He told her today that she doesn't do anything around the house. Then he spent all their tax return on things he wanted as "payment for supporting her and the kids all year" (and yes they are all his kids). All she wanted was some new paints and canvas because she hasn't painted since her oldest was born 3 years ago. He refused to let her even get one bit of paint because it was his money. Then he refused to buy formula for the twins saying there wasn't enough money and she should have kept breastfeeding...basically it wasn't his problem. WTF!
For the record she breastfed the one twin for 5 months I think. The other had issues and ended up on bottles and it was just easier to formula feed her. She's so overwhelmed and obviously suffering from PPD so she quit breastfeeding the other one recently to try and save some of her sanity. He told her people that breastfeed are better than people that don't. Who the hell says something like that to their wife?
She lives on the other side of the country from me or I'd let her come crash at my house for a few days to get away from his crap. I will never understand men like that. What a bastard. And I bet his parents taught him to be that way which was reinforced by society (I get crap constantly for being a stay at home mom...somehow women's lib got turned around into women HAVE to work and do everything else to be worthy of anything).
My husband teases me about what I do around the house all day and sometimes he gets snarky and says I spend all his money but I KNOW he doesn't mean it. We've had our issues, about money even, but never once has he seen his paycheck as anything other than OUR money. That was from the day he proposed. We weren't even married and he would cash his check so I could deposit it into my checking account and I would pay both of our bills with that and my check. After I quit my job (a couple months after we got married) he never said anything about having a mountain of debt that he took on from before we were together (thanks to needing dental work with no insurance of any kind...had to max out 4 credit cards to get it done).
Then there are douche bags like her husband who are selfish and act like spoiled brats refusing to buy food for their children because it's their money and they want to get stuff for themselves. What the fuck is wrong with people?
I'm so pissed right now. I wish she lived closer so I could just give her a hug so she knew someone really cared. ARGH! I need some good fic where Jack plays the stand up guy to counteract all this crap.
